Monday, January 31, 2011

Monkey See Monkey Do

One of my traits that I'm not proud of is my temper.  I've always had it.  Most of the time I hide/control it very well...but every now and then- it explodes to the surface and when it does it's very ugly.  I also have a very good sense of humor, so more often than not, my temper manifests itself through that humor.

Just the other day, I was driving w/ my daughter and my niece in the car when a young man, driving recklessly, communicated to me using sign language.  I saw red!  Adrenaline poured into my veins and my heart rate went through the roof.  But I could see the girls playing and giggling in my rear view mirror.  I had a decision to make: Do I prove my manliness and show that punk who he's messing with or do I just let it go?  It was difficult to be honest.  I wanted to reach out and slap that kid.  In the end, I just blew him some kisses and clapped at him.  The girls laughed, and I realized how lame I could have looked.

I can't believe that I'm the only one who deals with anger.  And I know I'm not alone when it comes to dealing w/ anger and my kids.  I do not want to pass that along or allow myself to get so angry with my children that it damages my relationship with them.  Ephesians 4:26-27 says:

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.

Here is a great article with some very practical ideas on dealing with anger.  ANGER  Use these ideas to show your kids how to deal with anger now, before it becomes a problem later in their life.

I stopped to think about what might have happened if I had allowed my anger to boil over at that kid.  I shudder to think about what my daughter would have seen in me that day.  Monkey see, monkey do parents.



  1. Yeah, you're right Joe... you're not the only one that deals with anger/temper. I've been in that exact same situation before and man it's easier to lose it than it is to let it go.

  2. Good topic, Joe. I too struggle with anger and have to be very careful of how I handle it around my kids. I remind myself over and over that I have to be a mindful parent and that if I raise my kids on my own emotions...well, I could ruin their lives as my emotions can change at the drop of a dime. Thanks.